• Alyssa Hall, ELI-MP

Are You Letting Your Circumstances Hold You Back?

How are you holding yourself back? Our circumstances are just that, circumstances. The question becomes, “based on my circumstances, what can I do to achieve those results?” I want to be super real with you guys for a second. I've always had a huge problem with allowing my circumstances to hold me back from doing something greater. While just sitting there the whole time hoping and wishing and praying for my circumstances to change so I can do the thing I wanted to do. And I know that's something a lot of us do. We tell ourselves we can't do something and that's it. End of discussion. But when you look at super successful people, what makes them role models is that despite their circumstances they were able to get shit done. The first person that comes to mind is actress Taraji P. Henson. She wanted to be an actress. She was a 26-year-old single mom with a baby. Everyone around her told her she was crazy but she flew to California and did she could to make her dreams come true.

How? They shifted their thought process from ”I can't” to ”how can I?” That's what I did this week. I was being interviewed for a podcast and wanted to record episodes for my own podcast. But my apartment is extremely loud. I don’t live alone so there's constant noise. I spent the last month researching private rooms so that I could record all these things in the most cost-effective way. I found one and rented an office space for the day. Two days ago I remembered that I needed headphones to record the episodes with. I ordered a new pair, but they weren't going to come in time. I reached out to people asking if I could borrow their headphones and I had some amazing people come through for me. There are so many moments where I could've just given up. My circumstance was my living situation and I could've let that hold me back from all these opportunities. And in fact, I did! A few months ago.  Someone reached out to me asking me if they could feature me on their podcast. I immediately got frustrated because I felt like I couldn't do it. So I did nothing. When I remembered the headphones I could've given up then too. But I didn’t. When you really want something and are super committed to getting it, you will ALLOW yourself to find a way. But if you already feel like it wasn’t meant for you and it wasn’t going to happen anyway, you’re going to let things get in your way and STAY in your way. I want you to be super honest with yourself now, what have you been telling yourself you can’t do? It may not seem possible right now but I want you to shift your mindset about it. What is something you feel like you can’t do right now because of your circumstances? Instead of telling yourself it can’t be done, instead ask yourself this question, “what can I do to achieve that same result?” It gets the wheels turning in your brain. It gets you to start talking about it with other people and possibly getting ideas from them.

We're extremely creative when we allow ourselves to be. So go ahead, sleep on it, journal about it, meditate. Do what you need to do to get the ideas flowing. Because I promise you there's a way to make it happen. You just have to be open to recieve it.

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